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I'm super frustrated right now, and I don't know how to approach this.17 posts and 11 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.
I'm frustrated with my mother in law for multiple reasons, but right now the biggest one is that she constantly treats her son unfairly and treats me like I am her bestest friend who can do no wrong.
If he asks to borrow ten dollars for a few days (and he has never failed to pay her back, mind you) she throws a sort of fit and acts like he is taking money out of her rainy day fund, even though she has plenty.
Where-as, if I am driving her around on errands and she wants to go to the casino, she will just hand me $20 to play with, like it's no big deal at all. I always pay her back, or pay for her next trip, but the way she does it is just completely unfair. She will also blame him for things he didn't do, and rarely believes him if he's being completely honest, and if I try to defend him and tell her that no, he didn't break her thing, it was just an accident because said thing is old, she just sighs and won't look at me.
I'm getting fed up. I've dealt with and seen this for so many years now, and I'm really on the breaking point with her.
Me and my partner are going to be getting our own place soon, we are going to try and start our own family, and for the last week I have been torn over whether or not I really want her to be a part of that family. He's already abandoned her in that since, and he is more than willing to not see her very often, or probably never.
I love her to death and I think she is a good person, but I can't ignore my partner being verbally abused either. And I don't know if I want future kids around that.
I just…uuugh, I don't know what to do. Should I try to lay it down to her and tell her everything that's been going around in my head? Is that too cruel?
In this case it's not very obvious from the outside, and that's another level that we have to consider if we do break ties.
More than likely, a lot of the other family will think we are being mean, cruel, or acting stuck up. But at this point, I'm really starting to not care.
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Yeah I… tried to clarify here >>577331
, but perhaps a bit too late and I'm questioning my word choice regardless.
But yes, you're right, this one might not be so cut and dry outside looking in. I was more trying to explain why it can be hard for someone being abused to break free. In extreme cases, they sometimes don't which can lead to some very tragic consequences. What you're describing here doesn't seem like it's on that level, but I do think what you've described can be called "toxic." Which as I mentioned before I left for a little while is not something you have an obligation to put up with.
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It's not too cruel. She needs to hear how unfair she is being. But I would also caution you not to become too frustrated if she doesn't immediately see reason. People who behave unreasonably often have reasons for it, and they aren't always immediately apparent. Try to be patient with her, but I support you confronting her about this. She needs to hear it.>>577167>>577207
Chrome gives great advice