No.1191256[Last 50 Posts]
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Imagine being in this relationship? Best thing ever? Or greatest thing ever?
Anyways, huh, I'd voted to try dating again in May... but... well... I've not tried to... yet...
No.1191266
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Eh. Dating ain't worth it. You'll just run into some weirdo, most likely.
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A three way relationship sounds like a nightmare
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Yeah, it is pretty great.
No.1191337
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i've always been open and fascinated by multiple partners and open relationships
monogomy is great for some, but there are so many people that have feelings and love for multiple people for various reasons
there are some things that some partners can fulfil that others can't and vice versa; so having that openess can let everyone express themselves fully in ways that having only one partner can end up limitting
it does involve more involved calendar scheduling, but if you are willing to do it, then it's worth trying if you are open for it!
No.1191367
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>>1191337I just... Can't fathom being in a sincere relationship with more than one person.
Monogamous relationships are like already too much work for me.
No.1191395
>>1191337>>1191367Now imagine the folks that don that, but are cheating at the same time. Now that's a level of energy I barely comprehend.
As for polyamory in general, I feel about the way I do any "alternative" (for lack of better word) relationship model - there's like 8 Billion of us on the planet. It'd be MORE weird if some folks didn't do things a lol differently and were perfectly comfortable doing so.
The standards we tend to apply to monogamy (like if your mind as much as wanders or you find another person hot for three quarters or a second you are automatically evil) always seemed crazy high to me. I am not saying go jump at everyone you see, but I also don't quite think we're truly built for this "pick one when you're 25 and then don't step more than ten feet away from them ever again" approach a lot of people seem to think they have to take.
But then I am also the kind of guy who thinks people's attachment to the idea of marriage is a form of insanity.
Iunno. As long as everyone is happy with whatever they choose to do, I am happy for them. Enforcing any kind of nuclear standard always felt wrong to me.
No.1191401
>>1191400No one said "most".
I am only opposed to the idea that NO ONE can, or that it is somehow inherently "wrong". Because I don't believe that is true of any relatiosnhip model. Just because it only works for few doesn't mean we get to call it "wrong" or claim the people it work for are lying, have something wrong with them, etc. Which tends to happen a lot the second you take a quarter of a step outside of whatever arbitrary golden standard we've set this decade.
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>>1191401And I never said anything about being wrong. Glad we cleared that up though.
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Nonny is right, it takes a lot of work. You know how much work a single relationship takes? It increases exponentially with each partner.
But if you can get it to work, it's pretty damn great. (Of course this is only if you're the sort of person for whom poly is a positive thing. Obviously if you're mono, a poly relationship is gonna suck no matter how well it's handled.)
No.1191423
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>>1191422I've been mono my entire life, but if the right pair of people came along I'd probably give it a shot.
Like I said, I knew a guy with an open relationship that was with his wife for like 10 years and they had what appeared to be something good going on. At the job I was at we were allowed to listen to music and talk on the phone and from like midnight to 3am they would be talking every single night.
No.1191443
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>>1191395Those people that somehow manage to have a secret second family are just wild to me. Get a hobby. A hobby that isn't deception.
Yeah I struggle with people smothering me. I think I'll stick to 'ethically non-monog' or whatever we're calling it these days.
No.1191446
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>>1191443yeah, cheating is bad regardless of number of partners; so communication is always important, and knowing where people's boundaries and limits are; and avoiding underhanded or secretive stuff. i've always been of the mindset that you can never ask too many questions if you are seeking clarity
No.1191580
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so Vivziepop has released pride merch, and i lost control of myself :P
it's very rare that i don't get loona merch, but since i identify as pansexual; i jumped in head first to the Beezlebub stuff
and a Sallie May pin for some trans rep (navi appreciates the transbian rep :3)
No.1191581
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>>1191580here's the shirt
No.1191582
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>>1191581>>1191580here's the bee pin
No.1191583
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>>1191582>>1191580and here's the Sallie May pin!
No.1191585
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>>1191580what does loona have
>>1191581>>1191582>>1191583damn, shits fire!
No.1191586
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>>1191585she's canonically bisexual according to the merch and last years pride promotion! which is awesome, but i don't identify as bi, so it would have been a little inaccurate for me ><
right?! i am so glad i actually have income now so i can actually buy things i like again!
happy very very early pride, harlowe <3!
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>>1191587you too can sport loona and sallie may too! or whoever strikes your fancy!
No.1191594
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>>1191586I need some Loona merch, if she's bi then that's fortuitous
No.1191597
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I should get something like this as a shirt, as a jacket, as a blanket, or similar... I'm sure...
No.1191600
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>>1191594>>1191597bi loona is love
bi loona is life!
i love seein all this loona love!
it feels me with the gay energy of a thousand suns!
No.1191604
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I'd also love this pin... like... my goodness...
No.1191605
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>>1191604that looks amazing!
Sallie May is a true queen! we should all strive to be her!
No.1191633
>>1191582>>1191583Man these are lovely.
Too bad it is both basically impossible to buy anything from America creators for me and there's almost never any Aro merch. Especially since basically no characters are ever Aro and especially not ones I'd like. That's bit a Hellaverse rant, just a general one.
Not that it's THAT big a deal to me, but it'd be nice sometimes.
No.1191640
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>>1191633The only aromantic character that I can think of from media that I've liked (which isn't the same thing, of course, as all of the stuff released across the world) is Data from 'Star Trek'.
Admittedly, whether you like Data or not, some things available online with him look pretty neat. Like these pins.
No.1191641
>>1191640Yeah, that's kind of my point. the AroAce spectrum doesn't tend to get brought up a lot, and especially in the case of Aro, it tends to get written off as "just plain emotionless people", so that's fun.
Also,I dunno a damn thing about Trek, but isn't Data an android or something? So it's less that he is "aromantic" and that he is literally a machine with no (or limited) human feelings? Not the best example.
No.1191644
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>>1191633sorry about that! Aro still remains a rather un-represented identity in a lot of media :/ I know Octavia is presented as Ace, but i know that's not the same thing
i hope one day you'll find an Aro character that you can obsess over in a totally platonic way!
No.1191647
>>1191644The heck you saying sorry for?
I am just sorta ,using about how there's unlikely to ever be merch like that I'd get
No.1191659
>>1191641Oh, I'm not arguing with you, since your point is just plain correct, am just saying that you and I should look at other pins and stuff online too
I think the guy looks hilarious in that image:
>>1191640 No.1191665
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>>1191446Yeah but like. Sleeping with a random one night is just vanilla toxic.
How do you manage having two families? Two homes? Two wives? Two sets of kids? How do you keep up the pretext of like 'im going away for a work trip' every month and no one gets suspicious?
I guess some people's hobby is just bullshitting.
No.1191666
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Meh. Friday has come. Still not really managing to spend time socially with anybody, much less romantically.
Also, like, every time I've a day in which I think that I'll try to look through various websites and spend time with other LGBT people either offline, online, or both, well, there's something else I've got to ponder involving like somebody who uses the wrong name and the wrong pronoun getting crucified. Or nobody giving the slightest shit about the obvious moral lines around sexual consent. And more.
It's harder and harder for me to deal with getting older that I can hardly stand being associated socially with either 'normie' types or 'alternative' types, because both of them seem to be as violently obnoxious, petty, and vindictive as possible whenever the chance arises, especially since it appears as if the majority of individuals in existence are pathologically not capable of accepting basic boundaries about sexual consent.
It's something in particular that frustrates me as a transgender person with mental and physical health struggles. Because I've an incredibly hard enough time remembering ages, dates, names, and the like during regular life. And because I've a weak enough constitution during regular life.
The normalization where like being around a transgender woman means that I've to risk being punched in the face for forgetting the right pronoun is... unfortunate...
I also really have a hard time with the normalization of absolutist guilt-tripping and shaming when it comes to transgender women and clothing, makeup, what vehicle you drive, what place you live in, and so on... like... if there's a disability status and income plus wealth bar below which you're "the wrong kind of transgender person"... then whomever makes the "rules" ought to get fired...
And the normalization that people can't just say "no, I'd rather not" or "yes, I'd like that" in simple terms (including myself) with any kind of respect existing... God...
It's getting to where I'm becoming seriously afraid of sharing spaces online and offline with like any people anywhere in any circumstance a lot... yeah...
No.1191667
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>>1191443I knew a dude in the Navy who had a different wife and kids in three different countries
No.1191668
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>>1191666I'm sorry to hear that. When I comes to pronouns and what not, I've always been a man of respect. If I respect you, (and I suppose even if I dont) it isn't much skin off my back to just call someone by whatever pronouns they want to be referred to. (Unless it's Xhe/Xhey or something. I'm not playing that shit.) In 99.99% of cases of someone is polite to me then I'm going to be polite and respectful back. "Hey I'd actually prefer to be called he/she." "Oh, my apologies, no problem."
I've never had an issue with anyone threatening to put their hands on me over it. (But then again IRL, I will absolutely throw down if someone puts their hands on me.)
One thing I've found funny is that most people assume that I'm 100% a heterosexual male. Probably because I present myself as such, crack a lot of jokes, and never make an effort to correct anyone. Last person to find out was my buddy from the military. He was pretty fucking shocked. It was hilarious.
>transgender women and clothing, makeup, what vehicle you drive, what place you live in, and so on.Man, fuck those dudes. Unless you're exposing yourself, wear whatever you want. And unless those people are sucking your dick/licking your clit, or paying your bills, then they can take their woke ass on and piss off.
Transgenderism (as well as CIS living) is about finding ourselves and how we fit into life. That journey starts with a personal relationship of the self. Don't let some judgemental asshole try to dictate how you want to live and love yourself if it isn't positive or constructive.
"Let the boy cook" has been my mantra on accepting others and their differences when it isn't destructive to others. (Or completely self destructive.)
No.1191669
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I think at some point maybe I should admit that most modern Americans are basically wannabe rapists and would love to force themselves onto a victim with them being helpless.
The only limiting factor is being caught.
I'm not kidding.
I don't know if anyone exists in the United States who doesn't feel interested in using alcohol, drugs, the threat of violence, or whatever else in order to get sex who isn't me.
Or maybe, at least, me and Noelle as well as Moony and a few, few others.
No.1191671
>>1191670Maybe. Maybe not.
I guess we just are alright with people getting groped without their consent? Kissed without their consent? Sent naked pictures without their consent?
Maybe this country is just filled with shit-for-brains caveman and cavewomen, I guess?
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Anyways
Have this one
No.1192004
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No.1192005
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Smdh I hate when this happens to me..
No.1192034
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Hello LGBT folks of Pville. Since I was last on this website I have sorta detransitioned. I say sorta, because I now identify as a nonbinary dude.
I also walked back on acting on my attraction to men a bit, after having a few negative experiences. On balance I don't think I have changed in my core, but I can no longer comfortably flirt or go on dates with guys the way I used to. I don't grieve it too much, because my attraction to femme presenting people was always stronger anyway. And now I'm dating another nonbinary person for about two years now.
It feels really nice to be dating someone who has their own gender oddities. Sometimes I feel like I was searching for that my whole life without knowing it. The vibes have been good lately, in that sense.
All that said I do feel isolated from LGBT communities in my home town. The bar I used to frequent and volunteer at, unfortunately, had some really bad actors. One of the board members was super sleazy and gross towards me, and when I called him out and asked the other board members to reprimand him, unfortunately I felt very left in the wind. This happened a few years ago, and it left a sour taste in my mouth. I haven't made moves to try and socialize in the queer scene since then. I'm moving countries in a few weeks, and I'm hoping a new city brings a fresh start, with opportunities to connect with some lovely queer people.
>>1191669Hello, Pseudo fox. Been a while, huh? Where in the states do you live that you feel like this is the case?
No.1192036
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>>1192034Gender identity is a journey of the self. Good on you.
Sorry you had to go through that. Sleeze balls exist in every spectrum and gender. Some of the biggest ones I've met were homosexual men trying to pick me up. Too aggressive and nobody likes random dick/ass pics out of the blue. Or maybe they do, but I prefer a heads up in the form of a question first.
No.1192038
>>1192036I know, it's a near universal experience!
Thank you for commiscerating with me. Has it ever happened in person for you?
No.1192039
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>>1192034hey rose! long time no see! and i'm glad you are still being open to your own journey <3 do you prefer he/they pronouns, or something else?
and i kinda feel that, i do identify as pansexual, but my attraction has been primarily femme coded, so i feel that
i'm sorry your community isn't a great place to be anymore for you, i also feel that as well T_T and i hope your new digs has all the love and support you could ever need!
and i'm just so happy to see you again!
No.1192040
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>>1192039Oh my gosh, it feels nice to be asked! I prefer they/them online. In person, I just use he/him to not confuse everyone. The straights in my life have a hard time keeping up.
It's really good to see you too, Noelle <3. Warm fuzzies, big hugs.
No.1192041
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The Roseluck tech has advanced majestically the past few years. The latest reaction images on derpibooru are dope.
No.1192043
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>>1192040last thing i want to do is assume something and be wrong about it >< and i know the feeling. most people refer to me as he/him irl, but sometimes people ask and i get to say "any pronouns are fine" (although i'm debating trying to direct people into a she/they sort of thing, i dunno still thinkin)
straight people are very silly, and sometimes exhausting at times T_T
>big hugs for rose <3a jouyous pleasure to see you too <3
No.1192046
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>>1192043>I know the feeling. most people refer to me as he/him irl, but sometimes people ask and i get to say "any pronouns are fine" (although i'm debating trying to direct people into a she/they sort of thing, i dunno still thinkin)Gosh, isn't that just the struggle of this age though?
I have no idea how much of myself I deaden by conforming to societal norms of performative masculinity, I just can't access those feelings becuase they are so unlived. I just hope it's a small part.
I also use all pronouns technically! How did you land on all pronouns, and what makes you consider she-they?
No.1192047
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Oh my god Rose is alive!
No.1192048
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>>1192047Hello hello! I sure am.
And I assume you must be an acquaintance of mine that has changed names?
No.1192049
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>>1192046yeah, i mean it doesn't help that i'm 6'4" tall and sound like david spade :P
it maybe one of those things that you don't know until you actively go against the grain, and realize "this is what i've been missing this whole time!"
i identify as genderfluid, as there are still aspects of my masculinity that i vibe with; so to say i'm fully devoid of it would be inauthentic. still i find myself wondering irl and online if that genderfluid status is something i'm holding onto cause it gives me flexibility when dealing with others, i.e. a means to avoid conflict because i don't want to cause problems cause of gender identity. so i wonder if i'm just a woman trying to not cause problems by holding onto some vestiges of manhood; i don't have an answer for that at this time ><
>>1192047they live!
you live!
we live!
No.1192050
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>>1192048Yes, we used to be friends. You've known me through a lot of different names, but Eris was probably the first.
>>1192049we live we die we live again!
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>>1192050we ride the cycle of death like a motorcycle! doin donuts on eternity!
>>1192051Jade is the one that sticks out to me as one of the earliest i remember!
No.1192053
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>>1192052JADE, RIGHT
i COMPLETELY forgot about jade
No.1192054
>>1192049>it maybe one of those things that you don't know until you actively go against the grain, and realize "this is what i've been missing this whole time!" That's what it felt like for me when I transitioned. And how it feels now when I'm with my girlfriend. She has a very masculine way about her that makes me feel safe in my femininity. Sometimes, having her plan a date and do the things typically expected of the man in the relationship - leaves me feeling like a man who just arrived at an oasis in the desert. It's a powerful emotion.
>still i find myself wondering irl and online if that genderfluid status is something i'm holding onto cause it gives me flexibility when dealing with others, i.e. a means to avoid conflict because i don't want to cause problems cause of gender identity. so i wonder if i'm just a woman trying to not cause problems by holding onto some vestiges of manhood; i don't have an answer for that at this time ><That sounds like it would be tricky to disentangle. Also, again, feelings that are mirrored in my experience exactly. I think because gender is socially constructed, it is so vulnerable to outside influence. I've come to peace with just letting my gender presentation do its own thing and not worrying too much about it beyond what is materially convenient, and what feels right in the moment, but I think that apathy is also costing me something.
>>1192050I thought that might be you! Good to see you again. Though I can't put a name to your personality, I have a lot of positive emotions tied to our time spent together.
>>1192052>>1192050I was about to say, Jade was one I remember too.
And wasn't there a "val", or am I making this up?
No.1192055
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>>1192054We used to hang out a lot, both on Ponychan and Discord, but yeah I also don't have too many concrete memories just good vibes and I know I missed seeing you around for a long time!
Val is also in there yeah, I'm remembering now. I just completely blanked on all my names. I go by Roxie or Harlowe now, interchangeably.
No.1192056
>>1192055I remember that much! I haven't used my discord in ages either.
I never asked, how come you changed names so often?
No.1192057
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>>1192054your girlfriend sounds wonderful, and i hope that oasis makes you feel refreshed and nourished <3
it is quite a bit, and i do do some stuff that showcases my femininity like nail polish and wearing lipstick; but even then, due to the height and appearance, a lot just assume i'm a gender non-conforming person, which i guess is technically correct; with pride coming up, i'm gonna probably hand out a bunch of pride stickers, and i'm thinking of getting a bunch of trans flag stuff to wear to be like "is this gender non-conforming enough for you?"
do you wish to combat that apathy at all for yourself?
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>>1192056I don't really know that there WAS a reason exactly, but if I had to apply a reason to it, it would probably be me trying out different names to try and decide what I want to actually change my name to when I officially do so.
But I also just like different names and it's the internet so why not change names when you feel like it. Give people a little challenge once in a while!
The difference with Harlowe and Roxie is that I use Harlowe IRL as a gender-neutral name for work, and Roxie came to me in a dream.
No.1192060
>>1192057Thanks <3
That's so tough. I find that it's really how I'm treated that matters. And that's what gender signifiers are kinda supposed to do, they're supposed to kinda subtly communicate, this is who I am, treat me like this.
I don't know... it's a little scary. I'm so busy right now, I can't really afford much instability in my life. And I have this feeling a deep dive into my own gender presentation... well, last time it didn't go well. When I go into conflict with the world and trying to assert myself, I ended up feeling so drained. I feel that I'm MORE understood, when I just lay low. That's why I want to seek out non-toxic queer communities. Have some breathing holes in my life where I can safely explore these things. Until I've found those, that apathy might be there to stay.
>>1192058That makes sense to me. So in the end you actually did end up picking a name for yourself, after changing your name many times online!
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>>1192060Yup! Though I'm still not sure what name will eventually show up on my actual ID when the time comes, but that's still for the future.
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>>1192061I kicked a deadname out the door a few years past! Now I have a gender neutral name, which is... okay, but I was a little too hasty and picked one that is actually sort of unique. only one other person in the world has my name, so it gets a lot of double takes and "what was that"'s. In the end I think I would like to change it again but it's such an ordeal. I Might just stick with the one I have now.
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>>1192061Harlowe has such an attractive ring to me btw.
is that okay to say? To me it sounds kinda smokey and sophisticated in an approachable way. I really like it. Kinda envious that you thought of it and not me.
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>>1192062That sounds like it could be pretty annoying sometimes. But also it's pretty cool to have a unique name, since that's pretty rare. Though I guess it does depend. The potential for regret is one of the biggest things for me, the potential that the name I choose will eventually feel like my deadname in the way I wish I had a different one.
>>1192063It's totally okay to say! It's a really nice compliment. I did choose it for those properties more or less, along with it's gender neutrality. The character I created to go along with it is also all those things.
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>>1192064>The potential for regret is one of the biggest things for me, the potential that the name I choose will eventually feel like my deadname in the way I wish I had a different one. Actually, it seems pretty smart that you have two names right now, a legal and a friend name. That way you test it out without permanent ramificaitons.
I think it's tough to feel good about a name until it's familiar though, and that can take years in my experience. One risk that you might run with changing names a lot, is that you could be missing out on that one name that would click if it had enough time to settle.
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>>1192065There's also the fact that the internet is still the internet, there's nothing wrong with having a different online name than the one you have offline.
In the end, all the names I've used in the past still feel applicable to me, except Eris but there's a whole other story for that. Having a bunch of names is just part of who I am, and having to settle on one for legal purposes is just going to have to be something I deal with eventually.
Of course, that's assuming everything either stays about the same or gets better, rather than getting worse here in the US.
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>>1192060that's why i have no problem with pronoun pins; i've talked to some trans folk that feel that those pins can be "too agressive" cause in a way it demands something of people reading it, but if that's what it takes for people to know what you want them to know, then why not?
does sound like there is a lot of trepidation, and while i want you to feel as authentic to yourself as humanly possible, i also understand the need to feel safe and maintain the energy you can to get through things; and even though i think it's not healthy in the long run, if apathy helps you get through shit in the moment, then that's probably why its there; that being said, i hope you can find yourself with people and in a place where you can ditch it as soon as possible ^_^
>>1192065>>1192066legal names are good for checks and passports, but in daily life, any name that vibes with you is viable
and being yourself is the best thing, even if it shifts and moves from day to day <3
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>>1192038I'm not trans myself, and have never been interested in transitioning at all. I've mentioned it before, but most people mistake me for being a completely 100 percent heterosexual male. Which they would be
mostly correct about. I'm bisexual and am mostly attracted to the female appearance. With that said, I've dated females, males, and those in between.
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Remember to ask for consent.
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Finally, some fine dining
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>>1192219Oh hey, I too have Haribo this evening.
No bussi for me though
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>>1192220What? No bussi for esh?
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I got some bussy last night
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>>1192224keep the gold, those hips got me acting up
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I'm posting this again!
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>>1192333I'm decent at drawing, but I've been way too depressed to get back into it.
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>>1192477I mean, I have an art YouTube channel, m'guy. I post art all over the place all the time.
But yes, sure, I'd always love to see.
