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 No.1191256[View All]

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Imagine being in this relationship? Best thing ever? Or greatest thing ever?

Anyways, huh, I'd voted to try dating again in May... but... well... I've not tried to... yet...
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 No.1191672

>>1191671
>I guess we just are alright with people getting groped without their consent? Kissed without their consent? Sent naked pictures without their consent?
Those are a lot of vague generals that (from my own experiences) dont really apply. I mean the same could be said about violence, but when push comes to shove, most people in America tend to subscribe that everyone should keep their hands to their selves except in self defense.

 No.1191676

>>1191669
definitely. seems like most people are more than happy to ignore the very loud voices that advocate for violence against women

 No.1191732

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Anyways

Have this one

 No.1192004

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 No.1192005

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Smdh I hate when this happens to me..

 No.1192034

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Hello LGBT folks of Pville. Since I was last on this website I have sorta detransitioned. I say sorta, because I now identify as a nonbinary dude.

I also walked back on acting on my attraction to men a bit, after having a few negative experiences. On balance I don't think I have changed in my core, but I can no longer comfortably flirt or go on dates with guys the way I used to. I don't grieve it too much, because my attraction to femme presenting people was always stronger anyway. And now I'm dating another nonbinary person for about two years now.

It feels really nice to be dating someone who has their own gender oddities. Sometimes I feel like I was searching for that my whole life without knowing it. The vibes have been good lately, in that sense.

All that said I do feel isolated from LGBT communities in my home town. The bar I used to frequent and volunteer at, unfortunately, had some really bad actors. One of the board members was super sleazy and gross towards me, and when I called him out and asked the other board members to reprimand him, unfortunately I felt very left in the wind. This happened a few years ago, and it left a sour taste in my mouth. I haven't made moves to try and socialize in the queer scene since then. I'm moving countries in a few weeks, and I'm hoping a new city brings a fresh start, with opportunities to connect with some lovely queer people.

>>1191669
Hello, Pseudo fox. Been a while, huh? Where in the states do you live that you feel like this is the case?

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 No.1192036

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>>1192034
Gender identity is a journey of the self. Good on you.  

Sorry you had to go through that. Sleeze balls exist in every spectrum and gender. Some of the biggest ones I've met were homosexual men trying to pick me up. Too aggressive and nobody likes random dick/ass pics out of the blue. Or maybe they do, but I prefer a heads up in the form of a question first.

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>>1192036
I know, it's a near universal experience!

Thank you for commiscerating with me. Has it ever happened in person for you?

 No.1192039

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>>1192034
hey rose! long time no see! and i'm glad you are still being open to your own journey <3 do you prefer he/they pronouns, or something else?

and i kinda feel that, i do identify as pansexual, but my attraction has been primarily femme coded, so i feel that

i'm sorry your community isn't a great place to be anymore for you, i also feel that as well T_T and i hope your new digs has all the love and support you could ever need!

and i'm just so happy to see you again!

 No.1192040

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>>1192039
Oh my gosh, it feels nice to be asked! I prefer they/them online. In person, I just use he/him to not confuse everyone. The straights in my life have a hard time keeping up.

It's really good to see you too, Noelle <3. Warm fuzzies, big hugs.

 No.1192041

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The Roseluck tech has advanced majestically the past few years. The latest reaction images on derpibooru are dope.

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>>1192040
last thing i want to do is assume something and be wrong about it >< and i know the feeling. most people refer to me as he/him irl, but sometimes people ask and i get to say "any pronouns are fine" (although i'm debating trying to direct people into a she/they sort of thing, i dunno still thinkin)

straight people are very silly, and sometimes exhausting at times T_T

>big hugs for rose <3

a jouyous pleasure to see you too <3

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>>1192043
>I know the feeling. most people refer to me as he/him irl, but sometimes people ask and i get to say "any pronouns are fine" (although i'm debating trying to direct people into a she/they sort of thing, i dunno still thinkin)
Gosh, isn't that just the struggle of this age though?

I have no idea how much of myself I deaden by conforming to societal norms of performative masculinity, I just can't access those feelings becuase they are so unlived. I just hope it's a small part.

I also use all pronouns technically! How did you land on all pronouns, and what makes you consider she-they?

 No.1192047

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Oh my god Rose is alive!

 No.1192048

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>>1192047
Hello hello! I sure am.

And I assume you must be an acquaintance of mine that has changed names?

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>>1192046
yeah, i mean it doesn't help that i'm 6'4" tall and sound like david spade :P

it maybe one of those things that you don't know until you actively go against the grain, and realize "this is what i've been missing this whole time!"

i identify as genderfluid, as there are still aspects of my masculinity that i vibe with; so to say i'm fully devoid of it would be inauthentic. still i find myself wondering irl and online if that genderfluid status is something i'm holding onto cause it gives me flexibility when dealing with others, i.e. a means to avoid conflict because i don't want to cause problems cause of gender identity. so i wonder if i'm just a woman trying to not cause problems by holding onto some vestiges of manhood; i don't have an answer for that at this time ><

>>1192047
they live!

you live!

we live!

 No.1192050

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>>1192048
Yes, we used to be friends. You've known me through a lot of different names, but Eris was probably the first.

>>1192049
we live we die we live again!

 No.1192051

>>1192050
>Eris was probably the first.
it's also the only one I remember. lol.

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>>1192050
we ride the cycle of death like a motorcycle! doin donuts on eternity!

>>1192051
Jade is the one that sticks out to me as one of the earliest i remember!

 No.1192053

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>>1192052
JADE, RIGHT

i COMPLETELY forgot about jade

 No.1192054

>>1192049
>it maybe one of those things that you don't know until you actively go against the grain, and realize "this is what i've been missing this whole time!"
That's what it felt like for me when I transitioned. And how it feels now when I'm with my girlfriend. She has a very masculine way about her that makes me feel safe in my femininity. Sometimes, having her plan a date and do the things typically expected of the man in the relationship - leaves me feeling like a man who just arrived at an oasis in the desert. It's a powerful emotion.

>still i find myself wondering irl and online if that genderfluid status is something i'm holding onto cause it gives me flexibility when dealing with others, i.e. a means to avoid conflict because i don't want to cause problems cause of gender identity. so i wonder if i'm just a woman trying to not cause problems by holding onto some vestiges of manhood; i don't have an answer for that at this time ><
That sounds like it would be tricky to disentangle. Also, again, feelings that are mirrored in my experience exactly. I think because gender is socially constructed, it is so vulnerable to outside influence. I've come to peace with just letting my gender presentation do its own thing and not worrying too much about it beyond what is materially convenient, and what feels right in the moment, but I think that apathy is also costing me something.

>>1192050
I thought that might be you! Good to see you again. Though I can't put a name to your personality, I have a lot of positive emotions tied to our time spent together.

>>1192052
>>1192050

I was about to say, Jade was one I remember too.

And wasn't there a "val", or am I making this up?

 No.1192055

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>>1192054
We used to hang out a lot, both on Ponychan and Discord, but yeah I also don't have too many concrete memories just good vibes and I know I missed seeing you around for a long time!

Val is also in there yeah, I'm remembering now. I just completely blanked on all my names. I go by Roxie or Harlowe now, interchangeably.

 No.1192056

>>1192055
I remember that much! I haven't used my discord in ages either.

I never asked, how come you changed names so often?

 No.1192057

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>>1192054
your girlfriend sounds wonderful, and i hope that oasis makes you feel refreshed and nourished <3

it is quite a bit, and i do do some stuff that showcases my femininity like nail polish and wearing lipstick;   but even then, due to the height and appearance, a lot just assume i'm a gender non-conforming person, which i guess is technically correct; with pride coming up, i'm gonna probably hand out a bunch of pride stickers, and i'm thinking of getting a bunch of trans flag stuff to wear to be like "is this gender non-conforming enough for you?"

do you wish to combat that apathy at all for yourself?

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>>1192056
I don't really know that there WAS a reason exactly, but if I had to apply a reason to it, it would probably be me trying out different names to try and decide what I want to actually change my name to when I officially do so.

But I also just like different names and it's the internet so why not change names when you feel like it. Give people a little challenge once in a while!

The difference with Harlowe and Roxie is that I use Harlowe IRL as a gender-neutral name for work, and Roxie came to me in a dream.

 No.1192060

>>1192057
Thanks <3

That's so tough. I find that it's really how I'm treated that matters. And that's what gender signifiers are kinda supposed to do, they're supposed to kinda subtly communicate, this is who I am, treat me like this.

I don't know... it's a little scary. I'm so busy right now, I can't really afford much instability in my life. And I have this feeling a deep dive into my own gender presentation... well, last time it didn't go well. When I go into conflict with the world and trying to assert myself, I ended up feeling so drained. I feel that I'm MORE understood, when I just lay low. That's why I want to seek out non-toxic queer communities. Have some breathing holes in my life where I can safely explore these things. Until I've found those, that apathy might be there to stay.

>>1192058
That makes sense to me. So in the end you actually did end up picking a name for yourself, after changing your name many times online!

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>>1192060
Yup! Though I'm still not sure what name will eventually show up on my actual ID when the time comes, but that's still for the future.

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>>1192061
I kicked a deadname out the door a few years past! Now I have a gender neutral name, which is... okay, but I was a little too hasty and picked one that is actually sort of unique. only one other person in the world has my name, so it gets a lot of double takes and "what was that"'s. In the end I think I would like to change it again but it's such an ordeal. I Might just stick with the one I have now.

 No.1192063

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>>1192061
Harlowe has such an attractive ring to me btw.

is that okay to say? To me it sounds kinda smokey and sophisticated in an approachable way. I really like it. Kinda envious that you thought of it and not me.

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>>1192062
That sounds like it could be pretty annoying sometimes. But also it's pretty cool to have a unique name, since that's pretty rare. Though I guess it does depend. The potential for regret is one of the biggest things for me, the potential that the name I choose will eventually feel like my deadname in the way I wish I had a different one.

>>1192063
It's totally okay to say! It's a really nice compliment. I did choose it for those properties more or less, along with it's gender neutrality. The character I created to go along with it is also all those things.

 No.1192065

>>1192064
>The potential for regret is one of the biggest things for me, the potential that the name I choose will eventually feel like my deadname in the way I wish I had a different one.
Actually, it seems pretty smart that you have two names right now, a legal and a friend name. That way you test it out without permanent ramificaitons.

I think it's tough to feel good about a name until it's familiar though, and that can take years in my experience. One risk that you might run with changing names a lot, is that you could be missing out on that one name that would click if it had enough time to settle.

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>>1192065
There's also the fact that the internet is still the internet, there's nothing wrong with having a different online name than the one you have offline.

In the end, all the names I've used in the past still feel applicable to me, except Eris but there's a whole other story for that. Having a bunch of names is just part of who I am, and having to settle on one for legal purposes is just going to have to be something I deal with eventually.

Of course, that's assuming everything either stays about the same or gets better, rather than getting worse here in the US.

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>>1192060
that's why i have no problem with pronoun pins; i've talked to some trans folk that feel that those pins can be "too agressive" cause in a way it demands something of people reading it, but if that's what it takes for people to know what you want them to know, then why not?

does sound like there is a lot of trepidation, and while i want you to feel as authentic to yourself as humanly possible, i also understand the need to feel safe and maintain the energy you can to get through things; and even though i think it's not healthy in the long run, if apathy helps you get through shit in the moment, then that's probably why its there; that being said, i hope you can find yourself with people and in a place where you can ditch it as soon as possible ^_^

>>1192065
>>1192066
legal names are good for checks and passports, but in daily life, any name that vibes with you is viable

and being yourself is the best thing, even if it shifts and moves from day to day <3

 No.1192069

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>>1192038
I'm not trans myself, and have never been interested in transitioning at all. I've mentioned it before, but most people mistake me for being a completely 100 percent heterosexual male. Which they would be mostly correct about. I'm bisexual and am mostly attracted to the female appearance. With that said, I've dated females, males, and those in between.

 No.1192072

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Remember to ask for consent.

 No.1192219

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Finally, some fine dining

 No.1192220

>>1192219
Oh hey, I too have Haribo this evening.

No bussi for me though

 No.1192221

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>>1192220
What? No bussi for esh?

 No.1192222

>>1192221
I prefer to stay bussi-free, it's not really to my personal taste.

 No.1192223

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I got some bussy last night

 No.1192224

>>1192223
Now listen, I like my Chel classic, but the hairstyle in that third one tho

 No.1192313

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>>1192224
keep the gold, those hips got me acting up

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 No.1192333

>>1192313
Gettin' that "I must draw you" energy and then I realzie I could never do her right anyway.

 No.1192335

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I'm posting this again!

 No.1192435

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>>1192333
I'm decent at drawing, but I've been way too depressed to get back into it.

 No.1192472

>>1192435
Eh, I just can't help it. I am clearly like, maybe a fifth as I probably should be at my age given how long I have drawn in some way or another, but oh well.

 No.1192477

>>1192472
The more you do and experiment, typically the better you get. I wouldn't be too discouraged by that. Post some art sometime. Maybe I'll draw something for you, if you don't mind pen and paper

 No.1192486

>>1192477
I mean, I have an art YouTube channel, m'guy. I post art all over the place all the time.

But yes, sure, I'd always love to see.


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