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All I can speak from is personal experience, so I'll do that. I used to be that way. But it's been more than a decade and it's time to move on. That's the hard part isn't it? Letting go. I guess we never truly let go. It's like having a scar. Scars fade, but they never truly disappear. Scars can be painful, but eventually that pain becomes more manageable. It doesn't mean they don't have significance or meaning; but they no longer hinder you or cause crippling pain any longer. Emotions are like that. It isn't that I don't care, but if I allow myself to fall down that dark rabbit hole, I actually might not survive next time around.

I actually have learned to love Christmas, Halloween, and Thanksgiving in my later years.

Anyway:

>then how best do you go through November and December?
You don't have to focus on the festive stuff. Take sometime to yourself or if you have friends that are ride-or-die, tell them how you're feeling and let them know you could use some help; that you don't want to think about the holidays and if they will spend some time with you outside of 'celebrating the holidays.' I've come to find that while it is hard to be honest and actually ask people for favors, that a lot of the time people will put the time for you if they truly care about you. People might even respect you more for having the courage to be upfront and  I can't speak for everyone, but it's something I would do for others.

The Earth will keep turning and the sun is going to keep shining on the planet's surface long after all of us are dead. That thought is comforting to me sometimes.

As someone who doesn't celebrate holidays because I simply dont give a shit, its as easy as just ignoring it and telling anyone who brings it up that you're not really into it. its generally pretty easy to ignore things.

Did I inspire this thread or something?  

I honestly struggle with this given how much my brain lives in a state of constant recall. So many things trigger painful memories from Halloween through Christmas given loved ones lost around those times. I don't really do much about it other than just ... feel shitty.

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I think the matter of permanently cutting off people, even family and friends, from your day-to-day active life as well as similarly cutting them out of your memories is too serious to talk about for a lot of people. I agree with you that it's a necessary step a lot of the time. Not always, yeah, but many times it is.

One can say as well that if a limb needs to be amputated for the sake of an overall person, then the clear thing for a patient to do is to take off that limb and work to repair the person's health. It's tough. Yet it's what has to happen.