Well, I directly experienced it and it was what it was. You can criticize me for not discussing it with you when in fact my attempt to do so was met with indignation and vitriol as you attempted to squash my feelings in the way that you addressed me. If that's not what happened in your opinion, that's still the factual reality of what I experienced.
Further, as I explained, words directed to another can offend other people for example if I used a racial slur for black people against anyone, it would offend you and I find your ongoing accusation that I am offended because I am wrong and therefore not offended, or not offended and trying to cause trouble as a "white knight", to be in and of itself deeply disrespectful and dismissive of my feelings. Whether you intend that or not, which I am not assuming. It's how it comes across to me, and that you cannot rebut because it is simply true.
Fortunately, I seem to be wearing a thicker skin today so I no longer care. I already regret having said anything, and I accept that it's not going to accomplish anything anyway because no one, least of all you, will hold you accountable for your words followed by circular evasions to any attempt to discuss it with you, unless you are able to reach the conclusion that no one got hurt and you got away with your careless hurtful words yet again.
Notice I said "careless" not deliberate. Somehow I am convinced that you don't mean to be such an unpleasant person. But my point has never been that you are unconscionably mean and nasty on purpose (or if it ever was, then I was wrong and I don't remember it anymore), but has been that you hurt my feelings and you demonstrate a lack of concern about having done so, and then attempt to force me to take the blame for what you have done to me. I dunno, as I've said before maybe it IS all my fault. I should probably not be here to be so easily damaged.
Regardless, today I don't care anymore. Other than regretting the debacle that I caused trying to make a stand on this issue. I know I should just let it roll off, and today it has. Yesterday, it was different.
I really would appreciate if you at least try to listen to someone whose feelings are hurt and make a genuine attempt to understand how your words were involved instead of always having to be right about it no matter the cost. Because you are not right, Manley. You can try and convince yourself that you should be held harmless for what you have caused, and maybe you can convince others. But you can never convince me, and I firmly believe that you are not incapable of being less offensive in your method of communication. It has often been my position that people letting you get away with it day in and day out is as big a disservice to you as it is to others on this site. You are receiving positive reinforcement for things you shouldn't be, and I suppose it's not surprising you can be surprised that someone actually stands up to you and says Hey That Hurt instead of laughing it off. You don't live in a vacuum and I acknowledge this is probably just as unpleasant for you as it is for me. Which I do regret btw. I do not intend to make your time here worse. It just seems to be a natural progression of our dynamic.
But whatever. Do what you will, and I'll try to stay out of your way from now on. What isn't your fault is that I am so crappy at letting things that shouldn't offend me, considering the source, hurt my feelings.
You can never offend me Artee. I don't know why. Maybe it's cuz I love you as a fan of G3, as a hardworking, self-doubting sarcastic but deeply caring father struggling to deal with health and work problems. Or maybe I just love your attitude, but probably not that cuz your attitude sucks. But then so does mine. At any rate, it's puzzling that there is nothing you could ever say to me that would genuinely hurt my feelings (unless you meant to and you never have) while inadvertent grumpiness from Manley grates my nerves to the point I'm willing to curl up and cry in between rage-aholic typing to the mods here.
In conclusion since less than an hour after posting this thread I've regretted it and my behavior in the days leading up to it. Somehow, no one has decided I'm sufficiently in the wrong to warn or ban me about it, which is probably as much a negligence of the rule against disrespectful conduct as not cracking down on anyone else, but I still feel awful.
So, whatev. Ponyville is as Ponyville does, and each time I've wanted to stomp away and never come back, I crawl back anyway and sometimes I meet someone I value who I would have missed if I had gone forever. So I'll probably continue to be here, and I'll probably continue to be disruptive and hurt and unhappy and dissatisfied. But I'll hopefully also bring something positive enough to be worth putting up with a lost pony, and when that's no longer the case I hope the staff has the gumption to take out the trash that won't take itself out.
Until then, Mr. Manley, I'll see you on /pony/.